Choosing a life partner is one of the most significant decisions you’ll ever make. Many times, we focus on feelings and forget to ask deep, practical questions that shape a lasting marriage. After my earlier post on preparing for marriage, several of you reached out asking for specifics. So here we are.
These questions are designed to spark open conversations, build clarity, and lay a strong foundation before saying “I do.”
Here Are Questions You Must Ask Yourself and Your Partner Before Settling Down
📌 Important Questions to Ask Your Partner
These questions aren’t meant to interrogate—they’re a loving way to understand each other’s values, goals, and expectations.
🏠 Family & Background
- What is your family’s social and economic background?
- How did your upbringing shape your view on marriage and family?
🎓 Education & Ambition
- What level of education have you completed? How important is education to you?
- What are your career and financial goals over the next 5–10 years?
- How ambitious are you when it comes to personal growth?
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👨👩👧 Gender Roles & Responsibility
- What are your views on gender roles in marriage?
- Who should take what responsibilities at home?
💸 Finances
- How do you think finances should be handled in marriage?
- Are you a spender or a saver?
- Should we have joint or separate accounts?
🔍 Worldview & Beliefs
- What are your political beliefs? Do you expect us to align?
- What are your religious beliefs?
- How important is church involvement or ministry to you?
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💃 Social Life & Boundaries
- What are your views on alcohol, partying, and social outings?
- How should friendships with the opposite sex be handled in a committed relationship?
🧠 Personality & Preferences
- What’s your sense of humor like?
- How do you usually deal with stress or conflict?
💏 Love, Intimacy & Commitment
- What are your thoughts on physical intimacy before and after marriage?
- How do you express love?
- What are your expectations for affection, attention, and communication?
📌 Important Questions to Ask Yourself
Before you even question someone else, it’s wise to look within.
🧍♂️ Self-Awareness
- What role should my family play in my future marriage?
- Am I emotionally ready for commitment?
- How do I handle conflict—am I a fighter, avoider, or resolver?
💰 Personal Habits
- How do I manage money?
- Do I expect my partner to provide for me in ways I haven’t defined?
💭 Deep Reflections
- What book (besides the Bible) has shaped my values the most?
- What trait do I admire or dislike most in my parents—and have I inherited it?
- If I had one day left to live, how would I spend it?
💡 Final Thoughts
These questions won’t solve everything, but they can open the door to real conversations, reveal potential red flags, and help you and your partner prepare intentionally for the journey ahead.
Remember: Love is not blind. Wise love sees clearly—and asks questions.
💌 Stay tuned for more relationship wisdom. Feel free to share this post with someone preparing for marriage!
